Grief Lives in the Body: A Somatic Approach to Healing Loss
Grief is often described as an emotional experience.
But if you’ve ever gone through loss, you may have noticed—it’s not just something you feel. It’s something you carry.
A heaviness in the chest. A tight throat. A sense of exhaustion that doesn’t quite go away.
Grief lives in the body.
Why grief affects the body
When we experience loss, our entire system responds.
Grief can activate the nervous system in different ways. At times, you may feel overwhelmed, restless, or anxious. At other times, you may feel numb, flat, or disconnected.
These are not signs that something is wrong.
They are natural responses to something that matters deeply.
Your body is trying to process what your mind cannot fully hold.
The nervous system and grief
From a somatic perspective, grief often moves through different states of the nervous system:
Activation (fight or flight): agitation, anxiety, emotional intensity
Shutdown (freeze): numbness, fatigue, disconnection
Many people move between these states without understanding why.
Somatic therapy helps you begin to notice these patterns, without judgment.
Not to change them immediately—but to gently build awareness and capacity.
Letting the body process grief
Grief doesn’t need to be forced or fixed.
But it does need space.
In a somatic approach, healing happens by:
slowing down
noticing sensations in the body
allowing emotions to move in small, manageable ways
creating a sense of safety before going deeper
This might look like sitting with a feeling for a few moments, then taking a break.
Or noticing where grief lives in your body, without needing to explain it.
Small ways to support yourself
When grief feels overwhelming, simple practices can help:
placing a hand on your heart or chest
focusing on your breath, especially the exhale
gently grounding through your feet
allowing moments of rest without guilt
These are not solutions—but they are supports.
Grief as a form of connection
Grief is not something to “get over.”
It is a reflection of love, attachment, and meaning.
From a somatic perspective, healing doesn’t mean letting go of the person or the experience.
It means finding a way for your body to carry it differently.
With less tension.
With more space.
With more capacity to live alongside it.
If you’re navigating grief and feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure how to move through it, you’re not alone.
I offer a gentle, somatic and trauma-informed approach to therapy, supporting you to process grief at your own pace.
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