Reading List
Books on Love, Attachment, and Repair
For couples, for individuals working on how they relate, and for anyone curious why relationships feel the way they do.
Attached
The attachment styles book everyone should read before dating.
Hold Me Tight
Emotionally Focused Therapy's core text, warm and accessible.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Research-backed, very practical.
Mating in Captivity
Desire and domesticity, why they're often in tension.
Wired for Love
Attachment neuroscience applied directly to partnership.
Getting the Love You Want
An older classic, still holds up.
Nonviolent Communication
Not just for couples, but transforms how couples fight.
Come As You Are
The best book on desire and arousal I've read.
Polysecure
Attachment theory applied to non-monogamy. Relevant even if you're not polyamorous.
Codependent No More
The original, and still one of the clearest.
Curious what these ideas look like in practice? They shape a lot of how I work with clients. Get in touch if you'd like to talk.